Your Fairfield, CT Attorney Can Get You Justice—Not Revenge
“The way my spouse carried on during our marriage was unconscionable. I want to ensure this behavior is punished and that the whole world knows about it.”
Civil law is an instrument for justice, not for vengeance. While you may be within your rights to feel angry over a spouse’s infidelity, stinginess, and manipulative behavior with your children, ultimate punishment for transgressions that do not violate family law or the criminal code is best left to G-d or karma.
Trying your case in the media, which you may feel is a good way to tug at the heartstrings of your fellow residents, is usually not the most effective approach either to obtaining a fair and reasonable settlement of your divorce proceeding, nor a fair outcome after a hearing or trial, and your media statements could come back to harm you later.
Emotions can run hot during a divorce. You may find yourself on the receiving end of abusive and threatening phone calls, or you may be engaging in this conduct. A crucial role a lawyer must sometimes fill is to help you manage your reactions to provocations from the other side so that you don’t harm your chances of receiving a fair settlement or appropriate decision by a Judge after a hearing or trial.
It is important to remember that, just as much as you are recording every insult and every slight from your spouse, your spouse and his/her lawyer are busy gathering evidence against you. They may present to the Court statements that depict you as an unfit parent or a raging maniac not worthy of the Court’s time and consideration. Don’t just get mad and strike out in an unhinged manner each time your spouse provokes you! It does you absolutely no good to act wildly out of injured pride, and/or to do or say something foolish and nasty to the opposing side or their counsel. Let your lawyer help you figure out how to better manage your desire for revenge, which may include referals to therapists to help you work on managing your emotional outbursts. In legal matters, your conduct should be above reproach and professional no matter how the other side is behaving.
Divorce and family laws in Connecticut have been established for the purpose of ensuring that each party receives a fair and equitable result, be it after a settlement is reached, or after a hearing or trial. Marital property, including assets and debts, are divided in a fair and reasonable manner, and the best interests of your children taken into account when fashioning legal and physical custody and parenting access plans. No one in a divorce gets everything he or she wants, but you can attain your reasonable goals. A good lawyer will encourage you to temper your emotions and your unrealistic demands in order to maximize your chances of a satisfactory outcome.
Hirsch Legal, LLC, based in Shelton, Connecticut has established a reputation as one of Connecticut’s leading divorce and family law practices. As a “Super Lawyer Connecticut Rising Star” Attorney Carmina K. Hirsch, Esq. (formerly Tessitore) has facilitated settlements and tried cases to successful conclusions. Whether you live in Monroe, Trumbull, Bridgeport, Westport, Fairfield or another nearby town, we are here to help you achieve optimal solutions for your divorce- or custody-related needs.